I was asked by a Facebook friend if I could help her with her assignment. She must only be a Facebook friend because the assignment says she must not interview friends, as can be seen in the image below.
This is how I replied to Jane Vivian’s request:
I see this is a case study. I would much prefer being the “professional working in the SEN field” than “an adult who has SEN”. We can still do it on a “reflexive” way – you asking about how challenging it has been for me being a professional in SEN while having a SEN. I recommend this book:
It might be more interesting for your tutor to do this interview with me – I am not willing to be portrayed as a “victim” if you know what I mean? 🙂
This is how Jane Vivian responded to my reply:
I’m afraid my tutor will not be able to do this with you as I’m doing the degree not him.
I don’t feel I would have portrayed you or anyone as a victim, and it saddens me you should think that about me.
Thank you for your recommendation .
As you have so little faith in me maybe we should not pursue this, thank you for your frank reply.
This is how I relied to Jane Vivian’s response to my reply:
Please accept the following revision:
It might be more interesting for your tutor, in terms of marking the assignment, for you to do this interview with me as an expert – I am not willing to be portrayed as a “victim” if you know what I mean, and the way the assignment is written would suggest I would be? 🙂
P.S. Do you understand emoticons like 🙂 which means people are being kind? ;-/
This is how Jane Vivian responded to my reply to Jane Vivian’s response to my reply:
Yes I think you’ll find I do understand basic emotions .
I wont portray anyone as a victim ,that’s not my agenda.
I have decided not to pursue this with you and someone else has volunteered their help with the case study .
Best wishes to you for the future.
This is how I replied to Jane Vivians’ response to my reply to Jane Vivian’s response to my reply:
I think you must suffer from undiagnosed and unaccommodated empathism.
It must be difficult for you not being able to maintain relationships if people upset you. I do feel sorry for people like you.
As yet there is no known cure for empathism, but it is know to affect the majority of people.
People with empathism have difficulty telling others about how they really feel, and as a result break off friendships over the most minor of things.
I suggest you seek help for it – it must be difficult having unaccommodated needs.
This is how Jane Vivian responded to my reply to Jane Vivians’ response to my reply to Jane Vivian’s response to my reply:
Okie dokie , I’ll take your sympathy and diagnosis and put it where it belongs my dear. Cheerio . And thanks for removing me of fb saved me a job. 😀 . See now that’s a happy face honey 😀
In relation to that last response, as someone who seems myself as autistic that is exactly how I feel! I don’t want people to feel sorry for my personality. Those people who feel sorry for my personality are the problem!
I don’t want any so-called “special treatment” because of my personality, I wan’t to be treated equally by being treated differently!
Regardless of my personality, I am the same as everyone else. We all have things that get in the way of us succeeding – In Jane Vivian’s case it is not being able to be friends with people she feels upset by, even if it was her mistake of assuming bad faith that led her to making herself upset.
As you can see above, I tried my best to account for the specific needs that arise out of Jane Vivian being empathic and assuming bad faith. But there was little I could do to help Jane Vivian, because her empathic spectrum disorder is so severe that she was not able to respond to the adjustments I tried to make to accommodate her undiagnosed condition.